Question for you writers of erotica and poets on word usage.

Some people are deeply connected to anniversaries and spend a lot of time, money and energy on getting the perfect anniversary gift for our beloveds. My husband and I aren't the kind of people you'd describe as deeply connected to our anniversary though.... Nope, last year we both completely forgot our anniversary. It wasn't until a day or two after that we remembered! Anyway, this year I wanted to write an erotic poem for my husband. The only problem is.... I don't write in that genre. I've been reading up and I've found several articles on the difference of erotica and sexual fiction... and much of it seems to me to come down to word usage... glistening folds, heaving bosoms... versus other more... colorful or straight forward language. So, my question to you writers of the "mature"... when you write for men and in the form of poetry, what side of the word usage fence do you stand on? Do you go with words that I can't post here, or do you go with softer, more romantic imagery type of words?

I'm sure my husband will read it, say, "yeah that's great".... but it's the thought that counts and I want to get it right :)